Alright, let’s get chatty about a problem; a problem much bigger than you and me, a problem so serious that it should be of the highest importance to every girl and boy —>
The sad part is that I am totally NOT kidding. And this is why: I think I’ve found myself sucked into a blogosphere in which I am constantly comparing my clothes, shoes, accessories, and overall life to the ones I see in pictures, thus being never completely satisfied with my current state. I am actually starting to miss the high school days — remember when a girl’s “dressing” problems consisted of whether or not your outfit was too “immodest” for school? Now, as I grow older, it’s all about whether you are dawning the newest Lulu Frost necklace, Jimmy Choo heels, and Tibi dress. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am obsessed with each of those brands and am completely in awe of their designs. But, let’s be honest, I just cannot afford to swoon over them so much on a college budget or even base salary.
Did you all read this post on A Piece of Toast about blogging competition? If no–DO IT. It’s perceptive, genius, and oh so true. The same competition that Sally & Molly found in the blogging world is the same type of competition that exists in outfit + closet composition. There is one part in particular that smacked me straight in the face:
“The competitiveness of who does it better, who’s numbers are higher, who gets the best brand collaborations, who’s wearing and carrying what, and who’s doing xyz – it’s all so silly to even speculate on. What we loved about blogging in the first place was that everyone got to do their own thing and build a unique brand that was solely based on themselves… Why waste energy on comparing? We are all different!”
If I lived in Dallas, I would personally seek these girls out and hug them for setting me straight. What they realized about blogging directly applies to shopping & fashion. Personal style is not something copied or bought. It is a process, one that comes most definitely through the inspiration of others. But that inspiration should be based on seeing how others have evolved, how they have donned so many different styles until they found one that was truly and completely ALL them. There’s a reason that I look at the blogs of women that I admire so much and still manage to say, “uh. no. I would never wear that in a million years.” Is it high fashion? Most definitely. Is it on trend? Absolutely. Does that mean that I NEED it in my wardrobe and should spend $500 on a shirt that will be out of “style” by the end of summer? No. This is not at all an attack on the brilliant ladies that have taken their style to blogs. I stand in awe of them despite their designer digs but more because I can also see the way they flawlessly style pieces from Zara, H&M, Gap, J.Crew, and especially vintage finds that any girl can find if she puts the effort in.
So what exactly does this all mean? Well, I’d say it’s a call to action. A call to not “reinvent” my wardrobe (and yours) but more like a call to return to the basics: define yourself first and then define your style from there. It’s a call to not buy every single new amazing, beautiful, trendy piece for each new season, but rather to stick to the staples, pieces that will not go out of style, and splurge on a couple of trendy pieces for that little bit of sass and swag that every outfit requires. One of my best friends in the whole world – Christian – does this better than anyone I know. Sticking to basic, comfortable pieces is her forte, and she does it on a college budget and still manages to look flawless. Basics are like a white canvas ready to be accessorized with colors and stand out pieces that show personality.
Ready? Me too. I’m ready to go sit in my closet for hours, take inventory of my clothing, stop trying to copy the top influencers in the blogosphere but rather try to be inspired by them to create a style all my own. Take ownership. Be you. That’s all.